Am I going crazy? Have I lost my mind? What is wrong with me? Anyone who is grieving has said or felt like this. We wonder why we do things or say things that we don’t understand. We really wonder what is going on.
There are many emotional things that we feel that really affect the real world we live in. Grieving people often battle depression. They experience fear. They feel uninterested or uninspired or unmotivated to do anything. Some grieving people find it hard just to get out of bed. Often grieving people find no enjoyment in things they used to enjoy. They find it hard to concentrate or focus. They avoid anyone or anything that may hurt them. They are afraid to love or to be loved. They become overwhelmed by changes and new responsibilities. And from time to time they simply shut down physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
One thing that has intrigued me is what we miss most about the missing person. It’s the myriad little things that they used to do or say. It is the little things in a relationship that bind us closely to another person. It is in these things that the fabric of our lives gets woven together.
Regret is a common felling among those who grieve. We regret the unfinished business of life that is always left undone anytime someone dies. The words unsaid or the love unshared. And now it’s too late to do those things. Some people write letters to spell out things that wish they would have said when the person was still alive.
Our spiritual lives suffer as well. Not wanting to pray or read the Bible or go to church happens. Church ties us to the past. People who knew them don’t know how to deal with you. This is when we learn that we really do walk by faith and not by feelings. And even when God seems distant and uncaring, He is there and active in our behalf.
One last thought. Physical symptoms are real. If you don’t feel well go get medical help. And if you feel suicidal, get help immediately. Ending your life will not bring them back or atone for your failures in the relationship.