“So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.” James 1:19
One of the ongoing issues that those grieving and those beyond grief deal with is being misunderstood by those we love. We get this in various forms, such as questioning the depth and duration of our grieving, or why we say and do things that bother those around us. We say things that make perfect sense to us only to have others question our intelligence and sanity. All those except the people in my Griefshare group. They understand.
It seems to be a common human trait to speak more than we listen and to tell more than we ask. To give opinions but never ask for our opinions. To tell us what we should be thinking or saying or doing but never thinking to ask us why we are thinking, saying, and doing those things. People are quick to share their feelings but slow to ask about our feelings. Sadly, church people are the worst at doing this.
It is good therefore to have people you can turn to who will listen and try to understand you without trying to fix you. If you do not have people like that in your life find a Griefshare group close to you and attend one of their meetings. You will be amazed how at home you will feel there. The other thing is just to remember that we are not in this alone. And even when friends and family misunderstand us Jesus never does. He remembers that we are just dust and that without Him we can do nothing.