After Kathy died, I wanted to run away. I had a plan to sell my house and buy an RV and hit the road. I had a list of people to visit and a list of places to visit. A plan for how to do that was beginning to become clear in my mind. I thought that in a few years I would get tired of van life and at that point I would just stop and settle down wherever I ended up. I would get a job, live in my RV, and make new friends. I thought that it would be easier to be lonely among strangers than to feel lonely among people who I knew well and who ignored me. But I did not go through with my plan. That is a regret that I have today.
Moving here proved to me that you can live almost anywhere and that nowhere is any better or any worse than where you were. People in general are nice and friendly and I have found that to be true here. I have a plan for how to stay here for the foreseeable future. I do not regret moving here.
I have noticed that once you make a big move it seems much easier to move again. Once you uproot yourself it is much less stressful to uproot yourself again. If people who I knew for 50 years could forget me, I am sure that people who I just met will have no problem forgetting me. I also notice that the outside things that influenced my life there do not have a pull on my life here. I have escaped the gravitational pull of the past and I am sailing across uncharted seas.